Just when you’ve managed to get to a place where you can confidently use edging in a sentence, a kinkier set of vocab arrives to mug you off once more.
With the ever-evolving English language, it seems there’s always something new to learn but when it comes to sex chat, most of us prefer to burden Google or Siri with our maddening questions than dare to admit we don’t have the foggiest idea what ‘felching’ means. So we nod and we laugh and we consult dirty dictionaries just like this one in our spare time instead. If that’s not self-improvement, we don’t know what is.
With a bit of luck, next time someone says, ‘it’s a sex thing’ you’ll know exactly what they’re talking about.
From fetishes and fandom kinks to the lesser-known slang of the internet, we present our A-Z glossary of fetishes, straight up filth and everything in between. With a bit of luck, next time someone says, ‘it’s a sex thing’ you’ll know exactly what they’re talking about, perhaps even stepping into the power of your storytelling with anecdotes of your own pegging adventures… until the next big thing comes along ofc and we’re all strangers to the mindboggling sexicon once more.
Without further ado, and as Salt-N-Pepa once said, let’s talk about sex baby…
A is for Anilingus – butt play referring to orally stimulating the anus with the tongue and mouth (aka rimming).
B is for BDSM – Abbreviation for Bondage, Discipline (or domination), Sadism (or submission), Masochism. It’s an umbrella term that refers to a spectrum of sexual behaviours that involve, for example, tying a partner up, games in which one partner controls the other, or giving and receiving pain for pleasure.
C is for Cosplay – short for costume play, Cosplay is similar to roleplay, only with better lewks. It’s the act of dressing up as fictional characters from movies or novels and having sex whilst taking on the persona of that character. We knew that velvet tailcoat and cravat we ordered in December 2020 would come in handy.
D is for Deep Throating – an oral sex technique whereby a person giving a blow job takes as much of the penis in their mouth as possible until it reaches the back of their throat, usually causing a gag-relex.
E is for Edgeplay – A catch-all term that falls under the BDSM umbrella, best described as pushing someone close to their personal limits or their ‘edge’ in the bedroom or in layman’s terms… risky shit not to be confused with its affable sister ‘edging’ (delaying orgasm in order to have a more powerful one in the end). The specific nature of Edgeplay depends entirely on the participants. Since we all have different boundaries, what feels risky or ‘edgy’ to one person may be downright dangerous (or indeed boring) to another. As always, safe words are king.
F is for Felching – ejaculating then sipping your semen out of your lover’s anus with a straw. Bottom’s up!
G is for Golden Shower – urinating on or near your partner, lovingly.
H is for Hardsports – according to Urby Dic, it’s “like water sports… but with shit.” Essentially any sexual practice or activity involving poop, including defecating on another person during intercourse, enema play and generally being a human toilet for kinks.
I is for Impact Play – from soft love taps to spanking and whipping, Impact Play refers to any concensual impact on the body for sexual gratification purposes. Generally, this kind of play involves objects such as a paddle, flogger, cane or riding crop but hands count too. As always with BDSM, implement a safe word to ensure all partners are safe throughout.
J is for Jock Itch – a common fungal skin infection affecting the scrotum, penis or groin area caused by tight clothing or not drying the genitals thoroughly after bathing. Let that be reason enough to Talc, folks.
K is for Klismaphilia – a term used for people who experience sexual arousal from enemas. For the uninitiated, an enema is a liquid treatment inserted into the anus, usually to relieve constipation. It can be related to kinks for bodily fluids, medical play or control, or simply because they enjoy the sensation of anal douching and want something more intense. Enemas are also frequently used to prep for anal sex.
L is for Loop de Loop – aka the 69 postiion in which both parties are receiving oral sex at the same time. To hell with fomo.
M is for Maschalagnia – a sexual attraction to armpits. That’s it, that’s the fetish.
N is for NRE – an acronym for New Relationship Energy / the honeymoon period where the sun is always shining, the hormones are raging, the sex is always good… and they actually put their washing *in* the laundry bin, not on top of it. The stuff of fairytales.
O is for Orgasm Denial – similar to edging but with a different end goal, Orgasm Denial is a control technique often practised as BDSM and involves bringing a partner to the brink of orgasm but backing off before they come, intensifying erotic tension and denying them of the grand finale.
P is for Pegging – it usually involves a hetero cisgender woman flipping the traditional gender dynamic by anally penetrating a hetero cisgender man with a strap-on dildo. That said, anyone is more than welcome to suit up. Glad we got to the bottom of that.
Q is for Queening – Queening refers to a vulva-owner straddling their partner’s face during oral sex. Aka a glamorous synonym for face-sitting. No crown necessary, unless you dig that kind of thing.
R is for Rusty Trombone – The act of rimming (eating ass) whilst giving a hand job at the same time. We’ll leave the rusty part to your imagination.
S is for Shrimping – sucking on toes *sexually*. Anyone for Prawn Cocktail Wotsits?
T is for Teabagging – when a person with testicales dips their balls in and out of their partner’s mouth – just like a teabag you see.
U is for Unicorn – A unicorn refers to someone who is interested in having sex with a couple, or being the third person in a threesome. Or as Samantha Jones would say, “being the guest star.” This person might be down for a one-night thing, something more long term or anything in between.
V is for Venus Butterfly – an oral sex technique that requires some multitasking, namely cunnilingus and fingering. It’s pat your head, rub your belly kinda stuff.
W is for Wartenberg Wheel – a spiky pinwheel toy that looks a little bit like a pizza cutter, often used in fetish / medical-based role-play or BDSM. Although they can look pretty devious, you can keep the pressure light, gently rolling the device over the body to heighten sensitivity and provide a tingling sensation on the skin. Versatile for all experience levels, you can experiment with varying amounts of pressure depending on your partner’s reactions, working your way over the thighs, back and wrists before introducing the genitals. FYI always clean thoroughly after use and check for rust before playing.
X is for XXX – that’s all we could find on the matter and after the journey our search history has been on here, we’re more than ok with that.
Y is for Yoni – the Sanskrit name for vagina. We take a deeper dive into tantric Yoni mapping here.
Z is for Zipper Sparking – dry humping while clothed.
