The Between You And Me series is back for 2022 and it’s had a bit of a makeover for the occasion.
It’s still the same candid problem page you knew and loved before only this time, we’ve made it easier for you to get in touch by taking the conversation over to Instagram. Because we like our tea instant and piping hot. Simply submit your dilemma via the monthly BYAM question box on the Zoella Stories and the team will come back to you with some sage advice. From the light-hearted to the downright ludicrous, we’ll be on hand to style outfits, share our beauty recs and rip your gaslighting boss a new one.
This month, we’ll be discussing whether Paris really is always a good idea when it comes to upping sticks and moving there to study, meddling mother-in-laws who just love to shut down all your wedding ideas, dipping your pen in the company ink, premature proposals, and what to wear to a new job. Decisions, decisions.
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As Audrey Hepburn said, Paris is always a good idea.” Worst case scenario you’re living in a beautiful city, famous for romance, fashion and culture with some of the best food and wine in the world. You can feel lonely anywhere so if you’re not happy where you are then why not take the leap? At least when you do there will be irresistible croissant on every corner.
Oof I’m a little worried you’re running away from your problems at Uni. If you’re already feeling lonely here I think it would even more lonely in a different country. I’d decide first whether Uni is for you (it’s certainly not for everyone) but I’d focus on building your confidence here whether working or at Uni. Paris will always be there, and you want to feel super confident when you eventually go!
Gaslighting much? I’d ask him for a catch-up, nip it in the bud and move on. If you’ve got to work with him for the foreseeable future you don’t want that gnarly energy hanging about. He’s the one in the position of power, don’t let him take advantage of you or make you feel like you’re imagining things. Bottom line. If you think it’s deep enough and he’s not exactly forthcoming, don’t hesitate to make HR aware of the situation.
If you are asking what you should do I’m slightly inclined to think you might be interested in him… If that’s the case I reckon just see what happens over the next few weeks. Maybe he hasn’t said anything because you haven’t. Definitely wouldn’t make it a physical relationship yet, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with seeing what could happen, even just start flirting a bit and gauge his reaction to see how he feels!
I totally get why this would feel intense and overwhelming! Can you drop some hints that you’re not ready for this level of commitment before he pops the question? Or even an open conversation where you express your needs and that you’re 100% invested in the relationship but don’t feel like you need a ring on your finger to prove that. Often the secret to longevity in relationships is communication and honesty, so I don’t think you can go far wrong in expressing how you feel, with some added reassurance so your partner still feels seen and heard.
Wedding preparations can bring out the best and worst in people. The pressure of hosting and wanting everything to be just right can often cloud the real reason it’s all happening in the first place. Not to mention the politics that come when multiple parties chip in leading to a sense of ownership over the decisions. Now is not the time to burn bridges, be the cool, calm and collected bride no one expects you to be. They say there is a true art to “winning friends and influencing people” and now is the time to exercise it.
Now is a really good time to make sure your partner has your back. Whether MIL is chipping in or not, I would get your partner to have a word and say thanks for being involved, but you’re being a little negative. It’s not your day it’s ours, so back off, or we’ll stop including you in the planning!
I’d play it safe until you can read the room haha. Stick to the wardrobe classics you’ll get the wear out of both in the office and out. You can’t go far wrong with a blazer, tailored trousers / black jeans, a turtle neck and boots. Or if you do want something more trend-focused, go for leather trousers and loafers.
It depends if you’re heading somewhere quite corporate or to an environment where things can be a little more fun, but I feel like making sure your personality is still shining through is the key to feel confident at work! Maybe add some colour to exude some confidence too…
When it comes to hyaluronic acid I don’t think you can go wrong with The Ordinary, the thing with skincare is being consistent so having something you can use every day and night without breaking the budget is best! This Lumene glow boost essence is also lovely for the days you want to feel a little boujie!
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